Pervy Quilt Rack
Ok, I have a problem for my handy-type readers to help me solve.
This summer I acquired this quilt rack. Nothing special, not old or particularly valuable. And, as you know, I am moving in a week to my new home, with a large ‘Mistress’ suite- which I am decorating to be an incognito dungeon. Dungeon is not quite right, but I’m not in the mood to brainstorm on that, and you get the idea. Anyhoo- the quilt rack. It stands about 3 and a half feet tall with two sets of lower bars, one set about a foot and a half off the ground, another a foot higher, and a final center bar at the top. And I DO use it for a number of vintage quilts that I also acquired at the same time. But… (evil grin)…it has always occurred to me that quilt racks could be useful in other ways.
So the thing is, this piece is not heavy enough to keep someone tied to it in place. I mean, walking- er- trying to walk around with your wrists, balls, and ankles tied securely to a quilt rack would be difficult, surely. And hilarious to watch- definitely. But I’m trying to figure out how to secure it in place so it could be stable enough to lean on if one were being say- whipped or flogged, or something. Without damaging the floor. Maybe securing it to a wall with brackets? Or to the foot of the bed somehow? I sorta like it there; but I’d really like to be able to move it around. Could I weight it without adding some really obvious base? If you’re really helpful I might let you assist me in testing the final solution. 
Ch-ch-ch-changes
I’m ‘back’ after almost a week of roof construction and no cable or internet….actually have been for a few days but am just catching up on work and such.
A new phase in my life is opening up, with the purchase of my first home; which is taking up most of my thoughts and time right now. I have a number of big projects that require effort and completion; and many aspects of my life are undergoing improvement all at once. It’s exciting but also a little daunting, and exhausting. In addition to moving I am undertaking some changes to my business, quitting smoking, and of course, redecorating my new home. And focusing on some chronic health issues all related to my constant battle with hypothyroidism in hopes of implementing some permanent improvement. All of this means that – at least for a while until I get settled- my focus will be less on kink and finding romance and more on just some practical matters of real life. Doesn’t mean I’m disappearing, but I will probably be blogging less, and focusing less on finding partners until spring (fall is busy for me, as a marching band parent). For the month of August I will probably not be online much for recreation…I move in exactly two weeks, and then school starts for my teen- it’s a big year- the drivers’ license, college applications, and so on…so Mom’s kink needs take a back seat for now.
I have several things to blog about, but little time and motivation right now. I made a complete stranger (male) apologize to me profusely (with good reason) with just a look last week, not meaning to…but it had some D/s undertones…kinda nice. Last month did see -uh- developments with the younger sub I was considering, which I’d rather just forget but can’t; and since I write this blog in part to be totally honest with myself about my explorations, it would be worthless if I didn’t examine – or at least lay out- what happened. But what did happen also pretty much shut me down and I’m finding it hard to connect with my feelings about it, and that it really has affected my ability and desire to fantasize or seek out new partners. So I will do that soon because this isn’t a state I’d like to see perpetuate. This month I made a clear ’shit or get off the pot’ statement to the older sub I’ve been talking with; his lack of answer equaling a defacto ‘off’. So, I’ve spent about nine months pursuing these two and a few ancillary interests, a complete waste of my time and energies, and now find that the busy part of my year is beginning again; with my desires and fantasies darker than ever now and still unfulfilled in any way….in the sexual prime of my life. I’m really glad that I so appreciate irony.
However, to end on a kink note, my new home has a gigantic master suite with plenty of room for dungeon equipment. I’m finally moving a huge antique armoire I’ve owned since age ten from my mother’s – and it’s perfect for storing implements, with one side full of shelving and drawers, and the other outfitted with a telescoping clothing rod and hooks around the interior. And, while I may not get to outfitting it all right away (the rest of the house is first), the piece de resistance is an enormous closet, the size of a large bathroom or tiny bedroom, with a small window, even. Just right for a slave’s quarters- my first thought when I saw it. Second was how many of these would line up along the wall with no clothing bars…
Busy Busy
Just a quick note. I’ve had some construction near my house that has (and will continue to for a few days more) affected my internet service. And, I’ve made an offer on a house. So, for the next week or so I will be offline and busy. If you really need to talk to me, then you will have my number, just call. See you all when I’m less busy and have internet again.
Even flowers must fade…
Lady Bird Johnson, a woman who I admire possibly more than any other modern historical figure, has passed away this afternoon.I feel particularly blessed an an Austinite that I will be able to sign the condolence book and place -what I am sure will be a small bunch among thousands- hand gathered wildflowers at the gates of the Wildflower Center and The Johnson’s ranch, a minor token of my esteem for her.
Lady Bird was a strong and gracious woman who set her own path regardless of who her husband was or his own involvements. She did things HER way, as a woman, and it shone in all she did. I will be forever grateful for the wildflowers she seeded our state with, and the knowledge of native plants she left behind; and feel lucky to live in a city which enjoys so many of the benefits she left for us- the Wildflower Center, the Hike and Bike trail, the contributions to our educational system and women’s causes…and the list is endless. And forever in awe of her strength of character and the way she so gracefully moved through a life filled with difficulty with a charming smile and kind word.
Just an example of the legacy we enjoy each spring thanks to Lady Bird.
Like a desert rose (seen below for you non-desert folks), she bloomed slowly and steadily, amongst thorns; subtly overshadowing all around her with simple beauty, and outlasting so many who were less hardy. Much of the woman I aspire to be is inspired by Lady Bird Johnson.
My favorite quote attributed to her is :
“I slept and dreampt that life was beauty. I woke and saw that life was duty.”
…seen embroidered on a bedroom throw pillow at the LBJ ranch.
A sad day indeed. As a tribute to this most gracious lady I have changed my header image to one of a local field of bluebonnets, to stay in place until her internment at the LBJ Family Ranch. I plan to take part in the local community events to honor Lady Bird.
Carpal Capers
So, thanks to those of you who had such helpful admvice for my capral tunnel/RSI problem in my right wrist/arm. I am still seeking BDSM targeted info, and probably always will be, so if you have some, share it please!
And on that note, i have tried out a ‘flickerwhip’ in person- just not on a person, recently. While I still think it strains my wrist, not so much as another implement because it’s flexible and the movement of the cane type portion of it causees the whip end to flick so you don’t have to do that extreme wrist flick at the end of your stroke to get the tip of the whip where you want it. Also, there is negligible transfer of impact energy back to the hand as you have with a paddle/crop/flogger. Also your movements don’t need to be AS precise as with a standard whip, so I think it could be done wearing a brace fairly easily. All of which do help MY wrist/carpal/RSI troubles, so it may be helpful to others as well.
Despite having done NOTHING (other than work) with my hands since that last spanking gone wrong a few weeks ago, I am still experiencing more pain, numbness, and twinging than usual. Depressing….particularly since I think how that incident threw me off in the moment has a lot to do with why the sub involved decided not to continue our play. And a bit scary too, since I’m going to be moving to my new home in a few weeks and my moving help is rather flaky.
In the meantime I have found the following links with preventative/strengthening  exercises for carpal tunnel sufferers. I am going to start as soon as I feel my wrist is back 100% to it’s pre-spanking state and will share my progress.
Again, anyone else’s input is invaluable.