Someone’s in trouble now…

A certain disobedient sub has been begging to be locked into chastity for over a year now and then coming up with every excuse he can think of to avoid it when I bring it up. Being a surgeon, he has some good reasons, tough ones to overcome…MRI machines and whatnot. We’d thought about the disploseable locks, but I don’t trust him to keep them on hundreds of miles from my reach. I’ve had reservations about locking him up for all kinds of reasons; but my patience has run out and my sadistic streak has won over. When p. and I met his behavior wasn’t  immediately obvious. I didn’t want to enter into such an arrangement without knowing him better. I also didn’t (don’t) think long term enforced chastity is healthy for an individual or a couple; and with our distance issues soon growing even wider, I advocated waiting until (if) we had a more reliable relationship.

Now I frankly don’t care. And I’ve spent several months tracking down a sturdy lock that should do the trick. A lab safety supply company I located offers a non-conductive, non-sparking, non-magnetic safety lock made specifically for locking up items in a hospital where a metal lock might interfere with equipment. We wouldn’t want p.’s patients sufffering just because he needs his weiner locked up. The entire lock body, hasp included, is polycarbonate. Only the tumblers are brass. It comes with a numbered safety key which cannot be removed while the hasp is open. The hasp is definitely too large for a CBT’s lock hole, so I still have that part to work out.

What really made my day when it arrived, however, were the included write-on stickers in English, French, and Spanish for each side of the lock : “Property Of:________” and “Danger. Locked Out. Do not Remove”.

My Master Lock

I’m going to test it in some metal detectors by putting it in my purse and going through; but the sales lady assures me it is safe for use near MRI equipment. Now, I wait for the right time. When I plan to utilize my lock is going to be a surprise to p.; he knows it’s coming and knows that until then, he can back out with a simple word. After that, backing out will be much more difficult, thanks to my new little friend.

Sometime soon I’ll post more about where things are with p. and my plans for him; but not today. Suffice to say I’ve decided I deserve both p. AND sparky, and am enjoying keeping them both, each for their own special qualities. Obligations keep p. and I from being what we want to be to each other for now; but we are making slow progress. I am making some lifestyle changes that will help soon too. And in the meantime, sparky is a good companion and I should probably buy him a special lock of his own too.

Transparent Nipples and Tiny Clothespins

Last night I took a much needed break from long work days and had a dinner date with sparky. C. is out of town, so we had the house to ourselves; but have both been working so much that we didn’t plan anything *big*. He arrived and we had a glass of wine, caught up on small talk. As we were leaving and already out the door I remembered the cock collar and lead in my pocket and made him come back inside with me. I told him to drop his pants just inside the door. “Right here?” I just smirked and strapped it on, a bit tighter than last time; holding the chain clip as he zipped back up, and clipping it to his waistband. I couldn’t decide which side, and he suggested left since that’s where I’d be in the car.

At the restaurant the waiter placed our menus both facing away from the door and the other diners; I like to face one of those. I went to sit in the seat I *wanted*, telling sparky to sit to my left as I did, but he didn’t hear (or pretended not to), and sat to my right. As he sat I went to reach for the clip and he got cheeky … “It’s on the wrong side now. Too BAD!”. I could not contain my laughter for several minutes to tell him what a mistake that had been. He tried to joke his way out of it, and quickly moved the clip to the other side of his waistband, and I let him think it might work.

After dinner I suddenly felt VERY ill and knew I was going to vomit. I tried the bathroom but it kept filling with sorority girls just as I would find it empty and I just couldn’t allow myself to wretch in a public bathroom with an audience. I managed to make it home, telling sparky as we reached the driveway that I’d meet him inside. I felt much better afterwards. This has happened a few times lately, any time I drink or get very full. I thought I may have a stomach ulcer, but I don’t QUITE have those symtoms; however they do sound similar to some mentioned by members of an empath group I recently joined, and so I’m investigating that further. Anyway, I told sparky that I just felt like curling up in bed, and did. He joined me, and I really was in the mood to just lay there and watch TV. But he had been in that collar all night and was irrepresable, even knowing I’d just been ill.

So I took out my cheapo bondage tape …actually electrical tape from the korean dollar store, that as it turns out has no sticky on it, but sticks to itself. Same stuff – the very same – as what the kink stores charge ten times as much for, I picked up as much as I could when I found it for 50 cents a roll…..thanks Korea! I never did come up with a good explanation for my daughter who just looked confused as I walked down the aisle with an armload of electrical tape. I had sparky clasp his hands together and I bound his forearms from wrist to elbow with it. I asked if he’d need a gag, because I’d already told him I wanted to watch the Lewis Black show that was on twice, and he kept interrupting, and that I was immobilizing him so that I could watch while I attended to his punishment for the smart ass comment earlier. He said no.

I pulled back the covers and got my box of clothespins- the tiny one inch and quarter inch ones. I’d used the tiniest on him once before only momentarily because he squealed so loud, so when he saw it he let out a moan of dread; but his cock betrayed him and began to swell and throb. So that’s where most of them went.

But, sparky has very sensitive nipples and it’s been a fun thing between us that I can just twist one whenever I like and he just about oozes. So while he was adjusting to the third or fourth cock pin, I put one on his right nipple, and a few minutes later on his left. They stayed on for about 20 minutes. When I took the right one off, his nipple was almost completely transparent in the middle, and I was a little concerned. Actually very concerned. Very turned on and concerned. This morning I can’t seem to get it out of my mind and feel a bit droppy/guilty  about it. Hrrrmmm.

bad lighting for my tiny clothespins

He was taking it so well with the six one inchers that I took out a couple of tiny ones and tested where I could put them. One just about half an inch below the corona of his head was too much clearly, but when I went to take it off it twisted in my fingers and pinched harder. sparky yelped. I moved it to just above the one that had been on his ball sack for about 15 minutes already…that worked. I put two more on the ridge of his cock between some big ones, and tried to put one on each side of his ball sac but it had swelled up so big that I couldn’t get any skin under them. I admired that for a while, and then went to get my camera and snapped this photo before realizing that the flash was off. I turned it on, and my battery went dead. And sparky was starting to loose his happy place and moan in a bad way. So I put the camera away and took about 5 minutes removing the pins and another 5 to sit and caress, kiss, and blow on his marks. Those tiny ones make the coolest indentions. I’m going to have to build up his tolerance so I can do some real artwork with the after-effect, which of course, I didn’t get a picture of, along with the transparent nipple. I really wish I had. Guess that just means I’ll have to try again. Drats. This pic was soooo dark, but lightening it made it pretty blurry- and hard to see the tiny mean clips, which is what my real aim was. Anyway- enjoy.

DIY Whippy Cane

As my monthly stats attest, the “DIY Sex” tag garnered some interest in my site, and I’m sure those who clicked the search engine link expected to find more than cut-out bondage dolls featuring Sunday Morning talk show hosts awaiting them. Which was the purpose I gave said tag. However, I am crafty in that other, less vicious sense (sort of), too; and I have been known to make a sex-and-or-domination-related accessory from time to time.My Whippy Cane

One particular little goodie I’ve made lately has me very anxious to find the right victim and circumstance to put it to use…a handmade whip-like cane. It was very simple and inexpensive to make, and easy to customize, and thus, I thought might make a great subject for my first DIY sex-toy how-to. One reason I particularly like it is that due to my ongoing issues with carpal tunnel/RSI, I am not currently comfortable using floggers or whips because of the heavy wrist action required to control and use them properly. I was able to make this cane with a very thin fiberglass rod, which behaves very much like a stiff whip, and gives me much greater control with much less movement of my wrist. I made my handle particularly long and thick, so that I needed less ‘flick’ to acheive my desired result at the end of the toy…I can use the length of the stiff handle to do the same job my wrist would do. I also made the fiberglass part a bit longer than many canes I see, which gave it a lot more length to flex and therefore be more whip-like than cane-like. And, since I made it myself, it didn’t end up covered in boring black leather- which, while beautiful and inspiring of many things, isn’t unique or feminine or pretty. I like feminine and pretty. So, mine is covered in buttery pink suede, with black caps and pink glass beadwork. And I’m working on a beaded tasseled end, which, I’ve discovered from the long beaded tassels on two of my favorite robes, can provide quite a nice biting sting when used as a mini flogger, too.

So, to start this project you will need the following items:

Step 1

Find the center of the handle.

Choose the end you plan to insert the fiberglass rod and measure the end of it.
Take this measurement and divide it by two (in half), then draw a line across the end of the handle at this measurement, dividing the circle in half.
Turn the handle 1/4 turn and do this again, intersecting your first line, making an ‘X’. The intersecting point is the center.

Step 2

Prepare your fiberglass rod.
whippiness factorHow ‘whippy’ your DIY cane will be depends on the thickness of the fiberglass rod you find. As you can see, the one I found was very flexible, giving it lots of play as it moves.

Mine was entirely too long, about 4 feet. I cut it down to 2 feet 4 inches, using a wire cutter. A fine toothed dovetail saw would also work.
This left a nasty end, so I used an artificial nail file to sand the end down. Sandpaper would also work, use a fine grain. This took some care, I found upward strokes, toward the center of the cane worked best. Downward strokes tended to splinter the fiberglass.
I then covered the tip by dipping it in very thick clear nail polish, letting it dry, and repeating the process until I had a nice smoothly rounded end. This took about ten coats. Polyurethane might work better but this required such a small amount, I used what was on hand.

rounded tip after coating

Finally, I sanded a one inch length of the end that was to be glued into the handle. This is because the fiberglass is smooth, and I wanted to be sure the glue bonded to the surface well.

Step 3

Drill your hole. (hehe)
Using your drill and drill bit, and maybe a cooperative slave to hold the handle, drill a hole at least one inch deep at the center point; making sure to keep your drill straight- i.e. in line with the handle. A crooked hole will result in a crooked cane. Blow away any sawdust before gluing.

Step 4

Attatch the rod.
Cover the sanded end of the rod with heavy duty all purpose glue, and put a good sized drop on top of the hole that will accept it.
Fit them together.
If you’ve drilled the hole too wide, wrap your fiberglass rod in layers of paper (using glue), allowing each layer to dry before trying the fit again.
Once fit together tightly, lay the whole thing flat, prop something under the rod to keep it stationary, and let it dry at least 12 hours before testing it out.

Step 5

Covering the handle. This was the most difficult part. I suppose you could also do it before putting the cane in, I just didn’t want to get glue on the outside of the suede- which you can see I was not successful at anyway.careful not to press glue through the fabric

Or, paint your handle…it’s up to you. I like a good covering for grip and comfort, so that’s how I proceeded.

You will want to be working on a flat surface. I will write the directions as if you are using a solid piece; and you can read how I did it with multiple pieces of covering below.
Draw a straight line down the length of your handle with a pencil. You will use this to keep your fabric/leather/suede lined up as you place it on the dowel, allowing you to keep a straight seam.
Lay your covering fabric flat, ‘pretty’ side down (this will be the outside part that you see).
Use a paintbrush to spread a thin coat of fabric glue the full length of your fabric- as long as the handle, about 3/4 the width needed to cover the handle. For thin fabrics (which I don’t suggest), be careful how much glue- it will bleed through…even suede… :|
Using the pencil line (facing down, towards the fabric) as a guide, lay the dowel on the edge of the fabric. Do take time to make adjustments here, as they will not be easy once the fabric is wrapped.
Pressing down, but not so hard as to press glue through the fabric, slowly roll the dowel forward; grasping the edges of the fabric with your thumbs/fingers as you roll the fabric around the dowel. Move slowly and make sure the ends stay straight. When you reach the ’seam’, you will have an overlap and an unglued area.
Leave this for now, and wrap rubber bands or tie twist ties around the handle at one to two inch intervals- not too tightly, but tight enough to keep it in place.
Allow the glue to fully dry- at least 24 hours.finished seam
Once dry, trim the excess fabric carefully- it’s better to leave more than you need and trim once it’s glued than to cut off too much. Leaving the overlap allows you to gauge a tight seam allowance, and allowing the glue to dry first is done in case the fabric stretches during the wrapping, and then shrinks back to size as it dries, leaving you with an unsightly gap.
Place a thin bead of glue along the remaining uncovered wood, and press your trimmed fabric into place. Roll the dowel between your hands and a table to press out any excess glue, wipe off with a damp towel, and replace your rubber bands.

How I did the above process with multiple pieces of covering: I wanted a soft covering, not woven, so I chose a solid piece of suede at a local craft store; the largest I could find was 10 inches long and about 6 inches wide. It was not quite long enough to cover my whole handle, so I also chose a roll of 1/2 inch black suede ribbon to use on the ends. Prior to gluing or cutting anything, I lined up all the pieces on a table as they were to be wrapped around the handle and double checked that the length of what I had would cover the handle…the 10 inches of pink suede untrimmed with 2 roughly 6 inch lengths of black suede ribbon at each end. Always double check! At this point decided that if I was going to take the effort to make a custom cane, I might as well make it unique and my own. So I got out my box of beads (trust me, most every woman has one) and found some tiny glass beads the same color of pink as the suede, and removed one length of black ribbon from the top of my layout. I strung 2 eight inch lengths of nylon ‘invisible wire’ with beads to be wrapped and glued in the spaces left by the removed 1/2 inch of black suede. I began at the bottom, with the smallest peices- the 1/2 inch suede ribbon. I didn’t trim the length first, leaving the covering about twice as long as I’d need, to allow for a tight seam. Using the technique described above, I wrapped a black ribbon, then 1/4 inch length of strung beads, another black ribbon, then the pink suede, another 1/4 length of strung beads, and a final 1/2 inch piece of suede ribbon.

Step 6

Finishing touches.
I painted the exposed ends black rather than try and trim a perfectly round piece of black suede. Okay, I didn’t paint them, I used a black Sharpie.
Then I screwed a small cup hook into the end for hanging it while stored.
I am currently working on a long beaded tassel to add to the end as an additional sensation tool. I’ll post photos of that when I’m done.

My pillows and cut-out bondage dolls love and fear this playtoy.

We’ll see how popular it is with human flesh fairly soon….

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